Of moving onwards

Don't you think a large amount of people's unhappiness comes from the fact that they forget that life is always changing? They have a set of expectations and damn me Willikers if they don't come true and come true now!

We all know that change is the only constant in life, yet when it happens to us, gosh, don't we fight it tooth and nail!!

We like to remind folk that nothing lasts forever, but usually only when they're having a rough time of it. (Which admittedly is when they need to remember it most!).  We pat them on the back, buy them a drink (The cheap stuff, they're depressed and won't notice) and tell 'em to stick with it because it will all be over soon.

However we forget the same is true for the good stuff as well. We seem to deem it our natural right that when we have something awesome, like a loving relationship; a great job or fabulous hair, it should, naturally, last for all eternity!

Guess what? No it doesn't.

Now you're sitting there and thinking, well geez, thank you for reminding me about that, thanks a bloody lot!

But what I'm trying to point out here (And Ta, you're welcome, you sarcastic git), is that we get unhappy simply because we get fixated on this, 'Life must be perfect and go how I expect it to mentality.

Life is not fair. Yes you know that, but do you actually accept it deep down in the meaty valves of your heart?

We also end up so expecting the great stuff that when we have it we don't even give it the attention it deserves, we even take it for granted, and then, POOF, it disappears and suddenly oh no, how hard done by are we, how sad, how pitiful, life sucks eggs!


Nope it doesn't, it's just not something you can control, and you forgot that.

So I'm thinking, I do that a lot, why not try to see life as a series of lessons that come and go? Something you can learn from? Even the best things in life don't last. But that's no reason to go hide in a dark corner and rock! If anything it's a precious realization that helps us fully enjoy the good AS WE HAVE IT RIGHT THIS SECOND!


Imagine living each experience whole-heartedly because you know it won't last forever? Adore your partner more because one day they might not be there! Love your kids because one day they'll be teenagers and it's illegal to strangle them! Heck, just really enjoy your supper because once it's eaten it's eaten and what are the chances anyone will get the cauliflower this tender again?

Expectations are all good and well, but maybe remember that there is a chance things won't go as planned and that's okay too! Enjoy your experiences, they are uniquely yours, for better or worse.
Or better again!