It's strange how a gap is created when someone you love or care about has died. It's like they were always there and then they weren't and you're almost expected to pave over the hole and continue on with a whistle and a smile.
The thing that gets me most though is wondering what has happened to them. We all think about, and occasionally dwell on, what happens to us after death, but it's a bit more hard hitting when someone we knew has passed on and we have to wrap our minds around the fact that they're gone. For good. Forever and ever, amen. Whether they went to a heaven, a hell, or a limbo party, the fact is that they are, in our world, extinct. There will be no more of that person for the rest of your life. Fact.
And I think losing someone also brings out our selfish side. Oh not in a bad, evil, mine, mine, mine, kind of way! It's that when someone dies one of our first thoughts is, "What am I going to do without them?" We feel OUR loss at their not being around anymore. WE don't get to have them in our lives, cheering it up just that little bit more. It's a bittersweet selfishness that we couldn't hope to control. It shows the impact they made.
So my thinking is today, even if it's just for today, think about everyone in your life, for better or worse, and feel thankful that they are there. Because you never know what can happen between something as simple as one breath and the next. You can never expect the unexpected (Man that's always such lame advice), but you can at least appreciate the things you have right at this moment and the beautiful people you share them with!
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